We all went throught that, she is standing next to you at a bar, she is cute you would like to speak to her but… you have nothing to say. It just that at this moment, you feel blank, then you feel guilty for feeling this way, then you begin feeling this pressure, this adrenaline, then you just look at her going away, without knowing if she noticed you, or if she noticed you, hoping that you didn’t look at her in a too awkward manner and that she thinks that you are weird. The party is over, actualy it havn’t even started, you didn’t even gave yourself the chance to get aquainted with her. It is possible that at this moment, you feel a bit disapointed by yourself, so you just get your drink and go sitting back with your friends and they say “did you see this ckich at this bar, she was really hot” and you say “I know.
We all know that: it’s not always easy being a guy who likes girls, when you are nice, you are too nice, when you are not so nice, you are jerk, when you are aloof, you are rude, when you pay too mutch attention, you are creepy. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be like that. You can reach this stage, where as a miracle, you know what do do, what to say, what to be, and she sees it, and this is when attraction begins its charms. This is what we call confidence. Why is confidence attractive for a girl? I still don’t know exactly, but I can say that this is the way it is. Cool, then how do we get confident then? This is mutch easier thatn you think! I saw in my life the most desperate seduction cases becoming great pichupartist just because they got this holy greal.
So let’s come back to our bar and let’s rewing the scene, so imagine you are stading side by side with this gorgeous girl, you are both waiting to order something, but this time, something crutial has changed, you are confident. A confident guy don’t over think what he does because he knows that thinking and doing are two separate activities that cannot be combined. A confiendent person is just in the moment. At this moment, they are playing this new song that you heard on the radio this morning. By turning your head, you this this girl. A confident person skeaks what he has is this mind, so you just say “what’s a great song, I really like this David Guetta” (just say that when it’s really a song from David Guetta, otherwise she gonna think you are weird) she says, “me too” then you begin speaking about music for a while, then she says she has to get back with het friends. So you come back with yours. You didn’t take her number because you didn’t speak with her long enough, but it doens’t matter, you still enjoyed speaker to her, and you have a positive energy for the rest of the night.